Hello, my name is Jackie Paulson. I am a 44 year old single mother
born on 12-12-1966 with the zodiac sign of Sagittarius. The one thing
I find true for me that stands out in the traits of the zodiac sign is
“Knowledge is power.” I love to read and learn from others as a life
Long knowledge and truthseeker.
The reason why I blog is to mainly network and share knowledge with
others. My passion is reading and research so this helps me to share
what I know. I can read 167 pages of any book in two hours with
complete comprehension of what I have read. I was not always a good
reader and that all changed once I got married. The reason it changed
is because I wanted to “fix” my husband at that time. He was a
drinker and so was I. Of course I did not think I had a problem I
thought he did. What I did was to get my hands on every self help
book I could get my hands on from Barns and Nobel book stores.
Eventually I was invited to a AA meeting with a friend and took her upon the offer.
I went there to “fix” my husband’s drinking problem. What I found out
was that I could not “fix” anyone but “myself.” Low and behold, I
changed and quit drinking and my husband did not. The changes I made
involved learning to not be a codependent and live my life
Married but “detached” from my husband and his drinking.
I got married on 2-22-92 and got divorced on June 12, 1996 and I had our
baby on 2-14-94. Yes, a short marriage to an alcoholic, a divorce
with a 1 year old which led me to being a single mother working three
Jobs just to survive. My ex husband was unfaithful in our marriage
and led to our divorce. I was born and raised Catholic and divorce
was not an option unless he broke one of the Ten Commandments and
since he did I was free to divorce and remarry, which I have not. I
received “sole custody” of our daughter and raised her the best way I
knew how and now she is going to be 17 on Valentine’s Day 2011. Yes, I
am a Proud Mother!
Okay, so to make a long story short, I have been in an ongoing battle
to get child support from my ex husband and he has been remarried and
has a ten year old son. Here it is 2011 and my ex owes me over 94
thousand dollars. You wonder how come so much? He is Delinquent
and when that happens there is penalties and interest that built up over
the years. Have I gotten any of that money yet, No! What is crazy is
how “dead beat dads” like him can live “knowing” they do not
support the child they helped to create into this world. It takes
“two” to have a child and it take’s “two” to support a child. I did
my part by raising her the best I could, working many jobs to make
ends meet, and taking on all the responsibility that a single parent
does, and then my ex did not see what I had to do just to survive.
So, if he did care he would have paid his child support, “actions
speak louder than words.”
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Nevada Divorce Guy
/ 04/20/2013Hi Jackie,
I just found your blog & admire your courage & strength in the midst of adversity. Keep on representing for the hard working single-parent moms out there!
Daniel
Sheila Bottini
/ 01/09/2013It is now close to a year and eight months, due to his blatant lack of compliance, my accountants still do not have everything they require that is necessary to get this divorce started. At Christmas he cancelled my AMEX card and tried to readjust our joint accounts. (Seriously?) Also, he sent my son a text message meant for his girlfriend by mistake. Rick Bottini continues to flaunt his guilt, upset the lives of me and the children and justice seems to be sleeping….I was told in April 2011 that a divorce could be acquired in 6 to 8 months if you were dealing with two reasonable mature adults. Obviously, that is not the case in my situation. Does anybody have any advice?
Family & The Law
/ 01/07/2013Hi Jackies, thank you for sharing your personal situation and great information. If you’re looking for divorce tips to share, please check out http://www.familyandthelaw.com.au/. Although it’s focused on Australian-based family law summaries, there’s practical advice that will help anyone going through divorce. Keep up the good work.
Sheila Bottini
/ 11/27/2012Well, now it has been 1 year and six months and 125K! He still is not cooperating, the judge’s assistant gave him an extension of two months. (Why would she do that?) One of those two months have passed with no results. Too many strange things have been happening and I have had to hire 24/7 security for my house.
Los Angeles Mediators
/ 11/26/2012you show great courage by getting divorce from your unfaithful and drunker husband. He is the one to blame for all problems in your life.
Andi
/ 11/22/2012A West Palm Beach divorce lawyer I know told me that going through the process of divorce is really not easy and you should expect that emotionally and mentally you will be exhausted but we all know that you can be better after doing it right? SO better not lose your hope and continue living with your life.
Orlando Divorce Lawyer
/ 09/14/2012I really enjoyed reading your divorce blog. It is very well written and interesting.
Jackie Paulson
/ 10/01/2012Thanks for the inspiring words!
Sheila Bottini
/ 09/13/2012https://sphotos-b.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ash4/424600_506492246046478_663628177_n.jpg,
https://sphotos-b.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ash3/526153_506493802712989_2143517000_n.jpg (<See photos of proof of his infidelity)
I have been trying to divorce my husband (Anthony R. Bottini Jr) for 1 year and 4 months. He was served the divorce papers on May 13th 2011. I am currently employing mt 3rd law firm and I have spent in excess of $100K, and he still has not released the necessary financial information needed to get this divorce started. The RJI has been filed and the judge has ordered him to comply, and yet he is still finding ways to delay this process. Does anyone have any advice? It would be greatly appreciated. Sheila Bottini
Jackie Paulson
/ 10/01/2012Sheila Bottini: please email me so I can help.
Beth
/ 08/28/2012Divorce is hard enough and trying to navigate the legal system does not make it any easier. In my experience, finding competent legal representation early in the process is a must.
http://www.mbfc.com/family_law.asp
Jackie Paulson
/ 06/29/2012I want to help (Jenn P) email me at jackiepaulson8@gmail.com
dedunumax
/ 09/18/2011nice inroduction
Good luck nice blog
Jenn P
/ 08/26/2011I am actually going through a horrible divorce right now.
I left to protect my now 14 month old son.
The sperm donor is doing everything in his power to make both me and our son miserable and make me pay for leaving him.
He was awful to our baby and to me.
He cheated on me as well.
The “justice” system isn’t working out that great for me, either.
But I got us out and pray every day for an end to this madness.
Thanks for sharing your story and your daughter is beautiful!